No Discounts Accepted Here!

Figuring out your "worth" is not about money, about material things or about real estate; it's about the beautiful brain inside your head and that amazing beating heart in your chest...it's about setting boundaries and knowing through and through what is right within your soul and what is not. Figuring out your "worth" is a product of many things, mainly life experiences. Not all life experiences are good, of course, but should that make you WORTH LESS or WORTH MORE? Because if you are reading this, you have survived 100% of what has already faced you.

As stated on Webster.com, a simple definition of worth: an amount of something that has a specified value that lasts for a specified length of time. So VALUE is directly related to WORTH...hmmmmmm. And time? I guess the "specified length of time" is how long YOU specify!

What do YOU value? Your faith, your home, your kids, your family, your work, your colleagues, your...? So doesn't it make perfect sense that if someone OR something comes into your life and devalues your home, your kids, your family, your work....that they are taking from your WORTH?

Take a moment or two and recall some moments in your life in which you felt full of worth and full of value. Where were you? Who were you with? How did it make your brain and your heart feel? Now, let's reflect on a moment where your value and worth were lessened, by words or actions or results of someone's hurtful choices.

I am going to leave you with this thought today. YOU ARE WORTH MORE and your life and all that is in it has GREAT VALUE. Anything or anyone that questions your worth or value is not worth your valuable time!



Jeremiah 29:11New International Version (NIV)

11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

Heal thyself and be OK with you

At 42 years old, I still struggle with me. My thoughts and my opinions often take a back seat. I have this mentality of "choosing what matters" but shouldn't my feelings and hurts and struggles always matter?

It's far past the point of people-pleasing. I hate rocking the boat. Confrontation and I just don't mix. I get that feeling in my stomach - not the cutesy butterfly bs...THE nauseous "I ain't gonna make it" feeling. I make the cliche "avoiding it like the plague" look like an episode on Nickelodeon. Kinda funny and exit stage left!

One of the most intense relationships I ever had was chock-full of me...but was also filled with confrontation. Balance was never found and it was the worst heartbreak I have ever endured to this day. It could be easily painted as a boxing ring...my demons...his demons...our demons. All fighting it out, taking short respites in our "corners" and what was left was fractured hearts and badly-bruised beings.

The bruises have healed and the heart is taped back together - the scars are there, but along with them is the strength within those scars. I feel empowered and hopeful and I am slowly but surely achieving a balance within myself.
I think that is what I have been missing for so long - balance.

Allowing myself to heal has been my biggest challenge. I am a very selfless person.
I over-obligate myself, have a tough time saying no and often put everyone and their needs before my own. After awhile, all the "stuff" I keep in begins to surface and let me tell ya, it ain't pretty when it comes out!

To paint a clearer picture for you, imagine a porcelain plate (representing your heart) shattering on a clean tiled floor. You will find pieces of that plate for months...maybe even years. That's how I have learned to visualize a broken heart and its healing process. The "bulk of the plate" gets cleaned up immediately but bits keep emerging...often causing renewed pain (especially if you happen to step on a piece!)

Does time heal all wounds? I don't know. I wish I could say why yes, yes it does!
Heartache, as we know, involves the heart. Love is the strongest force on this planet...maybe even in the universe I believe.
I'm beginning to see that the love we all desire to have with someone else must be found within ourselves first.

Self-love isn't about being over-confident or selfish; it is about prioritizing your own needs so you can better love and serve others! Take some time for you.
Set a goal, pray, journal, sing, listen to music or just be.
Heal thyself and be OK with you.