The going-nowhere relationship.
The one-sided friendships that are ever-draining.
Waking up, doing what you need to do...not what you want to do...and going to bed. Repeat.
Not trying anything new...never extending yourself outside of the dreaded comfort zone.
From "The Myth of Being Comfortable" Don't get comfortable with failure, discomfort is a precursor for growth. Learn to not fear discomfort.
One of my goals with this blog is to reiterate that we should be thriving and not JUST surviving.
In my last blog post "Triggers", I touched upon how we will revisit and repeat patterns because of a comfort level; satisfaction and happiness levels fall to the waist side. Another round of failures bury us deeper into a comfortable failure philosophy. Similar to a toxic cycle, this philosophy is tough to break free from. We linger, we hope for change, and we continue down a dead end path with the utmost optimism, until those ongoing failings chip away at an already damaged spirit, and we are left cycling and questioning everything.
Fear can be crippling. Fear of moving forward. Closing the door and not looking back. Letting go is one of the hardest things for a human being to do. We have this immortality perception and innately, we struggle with things ending.
Losing yourself is the absolute worse result of not letting go to things in life that are not right for you. People, places, things...we will often cling so tightly that we lose grip on what's important. Our inner peace. Our inner spirit. Our drive to do better, want better and live better.
Where do you start?
Well, I started with 3 steps and I repeat them EVERY DAY.
I'm a month in to this, and every day, I am stronger. I am more centered. I am more me.
1. Set your alarm in the morning to include a positive message.
Mine says "Good Morning Amazing Woman!" (got this idea from one of my dearest friends JVB - not sure if I even told her so thank you friend!)
2. Yesterday and all its worth is behind us. The victories and failures. Let it go.
Today is a gift. Let your presence be felt in the present.
3. Forgive yourself. Everyday. We are imperfect people. We are incredible, amazing God-inspired, beautiful, emotion-filled imperfect people.
Look in the mirror, say it out loud, believe it and live your life.
Joshua 1:9
Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.
